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Wife. Mother. Daughter of Alcoholics.

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Strange New World

Our lives as survivors of alcoholic parents is going to be so much more relatable after this. Easier for others to understand.

The Art of Apology

Have you ever received a non-apology? You know, the one that goes “I’m sorry you feel that way”?

Pants on Fire

According to Janet G. Woititz, the third trait shared by ACoA’s is to lie when it would be just as easy to tell the truth.


My thoughts used to scare me. Questions about things that were not supposed to be questioned: God, love, anger. If a thought came in to...

TRAIT 2: Project Incompletion

one of the shared traits among us is difficulty following a project through from beginning to end.

TRAIT 1: Guessing at Normal

Most kids have big dreams about adulthood. What kind of job they will have, what kind of car they will drive, how late they will stay up and

A Quick Follow up

THANK YOU. To those of you who have reached out to tell me what my words have meant to you. The fact that they resonate is proof

3 Steps to Ease the Squeeze

“Everywhere I look, I see my own failure.” I said this recently to my husband on an evening I was feeling especially low.

The Silent Mantra of an ACOA

We are hiding in plain sight, we children of alcoholics (ACOA), or, as I prefer, Survivors of Alcoholic Parents (SOAP). Chances are, if you

Before We Begin...

My outlook on my parents might be the most important thing I will ever write. The most important thing I can share with you—to help you eith

Beautiful People

Let Them Be Little

I was talking with a friend recently about my outlook pertaining to summer schedules (and our lack thereof). I was expressing my belief...

Unexpected Anxiety Strike

Spoiler Alert: I don't say explicitly, but you can probably guess what happens in the movie A Star is Born, so you may want to skip this...

Peaceful Resilience in 3 Steps

Three months from today I will turn 50 years old. That fact doesn’t frighten me or make me feel sick, which puts me outside the norm, I...

Building Resilience Even When You Hurt

I’ve been floundering lately. My dad was diagnosed with stage 3 lung cancer in May and died 62 days later, on July 12, 2017. As far as...

Removing the Mask

My mother would have been 73 today. She died at 55 of a heart attack caused by undiagnosed coronary artery disease. She was also an...

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